Resolving a Conflict
by Brigitte Champetier de Ribes
Exercise to heal a conflict or tensions with anyone, a group, a class, in relation to an issue, and so on.
To be performed by one single person
This tool, adapted from NLP, always transforms tensions into something better for both parties. The results are surprising.
I define two places: one for me and one for the person, matter or group with whom I have the conflict.
I stand in my place, and I imagine the person with whom I have the conflict in front of me. I summarise what I feel in one sentence or a word.
I then stand in the place of the other person, looking at me, and I wait for 10 or 15 seconds, not more.
I go back to myself, standing in my place again, and I am able to notice that something has already changed.
I go back to the other party, and continue in this way alternatively, for no more than 10 to 15 seconds every time. I do not allow it become a constellation, I only wait for a movement in each of the steps.
I can only express or say something when I am representing myself.
At some point a hug or an emotion will emerge, or the feeling that the exercise is over.
A minimum of three rounds is usually needed.