Let’s recall a difficulty, conflict, or discomfort that arises with someone at work, colleagues, neighbors, group, or situation.

1. Identifying the Discomfort:

– Identify the discomfort in yourself, and feel it in your body until you can put it into words: anger, shame, powerlessness, sorrow, despair.

2. Turning Away from the Person:

– Stop looking at the person or people causing this discomfort. Realize that you have felt this before; go back and see that you felt the same sensation on several previous occasions. Perhaps, you can even remember an old situation.

3. Reflecting on Childhood:

– Go back to your childhood and realize that you told someone important to you at that time: “I am like you.” Now, look at who caused that discomfort: your father, mother, grandmother, an older brother.

4. Acknowledging Growth:

– See that person important to you with that discomfort, and start understanding their past, conflicts, and pain. Tell them: “Seeking your love, I said, ‘I am like you.’ Now, I have grown: ‘You are you, and I am me; I see your pain, thank you for being the way you are.'”

5. Letting Go:

– Now, you have grown: “You for you, me for me,” “I am me, and you are you,” “Thank you for being the way you are,” “I let you go to your life, and I go to mine.” Now, return to the present moment and that person who created discomfort. Observe the profound change in both of you and say: “You for you, me for me,” “I am me, and you are you,” “Thank you for being the way you are,” “I let you go to your life, and I go to mine.”

– The conflict was a mirror of myself.