This is what Bert Hellinger called the neurosis consisting of uncontrolled rage towards the people one loves the most. This rage is provoked by an early separation from the mother, at a time when the child is not able to cry out of grief or to mourn the missing person.

1. When the baby was left in the incubator
Lie on the floor, representing yourself in the incubator and one metre away, place a pillow representing your mother.

Spend 5 to 10 minutes in this scene every day. Little by little you will see that your body will start to move very slowly, as if to reach your mother.

Until one day you will be able to hug the pillow that represents your mother.

During all the days of this process you will start to experience many emotions such as helplessness, fear, shame, loneliness. Welcome them with a lot of love, allowing them to stay until they are over.

When these emotions return, later on, you will need to do the exercise INTEGRATION OF TRAUMAS AND CONFLICTS.

2. When the child was separated from its mother sometime between birth and the age of 5

The person arranges the space like this:

At one end of the room place a chair representing the mother, or the person from whom the child was separated.

At the other end, the person him/herself. In a matter of seconds he/she will return to the age he/she was when the separation occurred.

You will do this exercise of reconnecting with the mother for 5 to 10 minutes every day. The goal of the exercise is to get from one end of the place to the other end where his/her mother is to hug her.

The movement will be very slow. Some days the person will only be able to move a few centimetres. He or she will feel a great blockage, fear, shame, loneliness, anger. At the end only love will overflow him or her.