When someone suffers from infidelity, it is often because they have been distancing themselves from their partner for some time, unconsciously attracted by an excluded dead person, almost always unknown, thus provoking the partner’s infidelity.
The excluded one who interferes in the couple.
If you have been the victim of infidelity:
Define three places for each of these roles: the two partners and the excluded one. Put yourself in each of them to understand what is happening.
Stand on yourself, looking at the excluded person, say ‘you are dead and I am still alive’ ‘I love you. I let you rest in peace.‘ ‘Now I choose life.’
Now stand in front of your partner and say ‘Now I see you again. I realise of the hurt I have done to you. I assume my responsibility, I assume the consequences. I choose to make reparation. I love you.’
You can check how your partner is.
If you have had a lover:
- Define four places: you, your partner, your lover, the excluded. Represent each one, in several rounds.
- Do the exercise RESOLVE A CONFLICT with your partner first, then with your lover.
Do point 1 again
To finish the exercise bow to each one as he/she is.