The point is to respect the natural hierarchy according to which the one who came first needs to be honoured by the one who came later.

Our couple relationship will be much better when we have respected that natural hierarchy.

And so will our children. For if we have not thanked a former partner, one of our children will have to represent them, living all their amorous vicissitudes without realising it, and also feeling more like a friend or boyfriend of one of their parents than their child, with the disastrous consequences that this brings about.

If you are a woman, imagine your partners to your right, the most recent (the latest or current one) next to you, the oldest (the first) furthest away.

If you are a man, imagine your partners to your left, the most recent one closest to you, the oldest (the first) furthest away from you.

Look at your first partner, you say something like this:

‘Thank you for your love. It was great. I loved you very much.
Now it’s all over and everything I learned with you I took with me to the other couples. Thank you for making room. You are free, I am free. I have a special affection for you. I wish you all the best.’

And you repeat this to each of your former partners.

If there was suffering with one of your partners, if you are still angry, add:

‘I chose you, for all that happened.

I assume the harm I did to you, and I assume the consequences.

I leave with you your share of responsibility’.

And now looking at your current partner, you say:

‘You are the last one. Thank you for being with me. Thank you for your love. I love you just the way you are.’

Now you need to bow to all the previous partners of your current partner. You must not ask him or her about them. Imagine the ones you know, and if you feel there might have been any more, add them.

In front of the first partner of your current partner:

Bow your head to her.

Then say ‘You are the first and you will always be the first. Thank you for having made room for the following partners and for me’.

Then to your partner’s next partners, better one at a time:

Bow your head to her or him.

Then say ‘You are the second one, (the third, the fourth) and you always will be. Thank you for having made room for the following partners and for me.’

You may notice that the old partners are gone, no longer weighing on the relationship. You and your current partner can now be more intimate, you are now available for each other.